The famous candle problem psychological experiment showed us that when we have the potential to succeed, we also have the potential to fail. Children become aware that the classroom is a competitive environment where some children perform better than others. This has a big impact on whether they learn to feel confident or not as it creates pressure. Under the pressure of competitive conditions, children can either become more motivated or become more resistant depending on how confident they have learned to feel towards their abilities.

In this lesson, Stuart reveals the fundamental formula which can either make or break the extent to which we feel motivated. This formula is all about the relationship between pressure and confidence, and explains why people tend to build on their strengths but avoid their weaknesses. He finishes the lesson by revealing what specific aim we need to achieve in order to help children develop their confidence in the specific skills that will be most beneficial to their development.

In this lesson, Stuart reveals the 3 step motivation formula which was discovered following the famous ‘candle problem’ psychological experiments. It all comes down to the relationship between pressure and confidence. This formula explains why people tend to build on their strengths but avoid their weaknesses. Finally, he reveals what specific aim we need to achieve in order to help our children develop their confidence so that the pressure of the increasingly competitive world doesn't hold them back.

In this lesson, Stuart explains that the brain evolved from the inside out. We still have primitive instincts driving out thoughts and feelings - especially when we’re feeling threatened or under pressure. It’s just for the most part we are unconscious of them. These inner more primitive parts of the brain are very emotionally immature and processes reality in terms of all or nothing. This is why learning new skills and building confidence is much harder under pressure.

When children fail to exercise the more sophisticated layers of the brain, it conditions them with a fixed mindset. Children with a fixed mindset are more likely to resist unfamiliarity out of fear of failure, and will regress if they don’t do well. This makes them more likely to stay stuck in their comfort zone and less likely to build confidence. When children exercise the more sophisticated layers of the brain however, it creates a growth mindset which enables them to be more receptive to challenges and bounce back harder following failure.

In this lesson, Stuart reveals how the way that we can use praise can either stimulate the inner part of the brain and create a fixed mindset, or stimulate the outer brain to create a growth mindset. He also explains that the way we are both praised or criticised as a child tends to stay stuck in out mind, and we go on to praise or criticism ourselves the same way which reinforces the mindset we grow up with. This makes it all the more important to understand what to say and what not to say when communicating to our children.

In this lesson, Stuart explains that the human brain evolved from the inside out. The outer, more sophisticated layers process things like literacy and numeracy but the inner primitive parts control our instincts. He also explains that the way we are both praised or criticised as a child tends to stay stuck in out mind. Finally, he reveals how to praise children in a way that exercises the more sophisticated layers of the brain in order to create a 'growth mindset’ rather than simulating the inner layers which keep them stuck with a ‘fixed mindset’.

In this lesson, Stuart explains the important role of choosing what things to focus our attention on and what things to let go of. When we focus on things beyond out control it stimulates the inner brain which contributes to a fixed mindset. To exercise a mature growth mindset however we need to direct attention towards things within our control. Praise is a powerful director of attention for children, however Stuart describes numerous other ways in which the way we communicate with children directs their attention either towards more or less helpful things.

Stuart also explains that it’s normal for thoughts of self doubt to pop into our mind when we stretch out of our comfort zone to walk into the face of uncertainty such as facing our weaknesses. This is our minds way to distract us away from vulnerable feelings. He goes onto explain that in order to become more emotionally intelligent, we need to learn how to challenge our own thinking and seperate the ‘reals from the feels’.

Once we improve the interpersonal skills of self-awarenss, it tends to improve our interpersonal skills of social awareness. These emotional intelligence skills are more strongly linked with success than intellectual intelligence alone, and are therefore skills that we need to improve upon as parents in order to help our children develop those skills as well.

In this lesson, Stuart explains that Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a stronger predictor of career success among school leavers than Intellectual Intelligence and Academic Achievements. He reveals some of the most fundamental cognitive skills that young learners need to develop in order to be more self disciplined. He also explains what EQ is, and how we can provide an environment for our children which improves both their interpersonal and intrapersonal skills as well as our own in the process.

In our final days, it becomes clearer to us that the most important role of our lives is our role as a parent. Because we naturally tend to replicate our own childhood conditioning, many parents get stuck when trying to figure out how to do a better job than their own parents did.

In this final conclusion, Stuart reveals the starting point that you’ll need to work on if your aim is to improve your communication as a parent. If you’d like to get started and learn some simple strategies to improve your intra-personal skills and become more self aware, just go ahead and click the button below that says ‘get started’.

In this final conclusion, Stuart reveals the starting point that you’ll need to work on if your aim is to improve your communication as a parent. If you’d like to get started and learn some simple strategies to improve your intra-personal skills and become more self aware, just go ahead and click the button below that says ‘get started’.